For a little over a year my daughter has been going through a really difficult time. At least the part I am aware of has been that long, but it has probably been much longer than that. She is an amazing young lady with a compassionate heart and a creative mind. But there are days that I am drained after interacting with her all day long. There are moments where she is unable to express herself and because of that she has meltdowns that can be very challenging. I try to keep one step in front of her but the meltdowns are unpredictable and can vary in duration and what they look like. A year ago we tried different medications and then various forms of therapy. after a few months someone recommended we have her tested for Autism. The thought had never crossed my mind as she did not appear to me to be someone who was autistic, at least from what I knew.
On December 1, 2017 she was diagnosed with High Functioning Autism Spectrum Disorder, with Asperger tendencies. Having this diagnosis didn’t change who she was/is but definitely answered a lot of questions and helps give direction, some of the time at least. She has been working with different professionals now to help her with social skills and other areas that are challenging to her. There have been improvements in areas and there will always be struggles but there are many tools out there for help along the way.
So, what does this have to do with running? Some days it has everything to do with my running.
For most of my life I have struggled with depression. I have been to several therapists, tried different medications and over the past few years what I have found helps me the most is running. I am not saying to drop your therapist or your medication. I am just saying for me, the most helpful thing is making sure that I am physically active by running.
In the next few months after my daughter’s diagnosis I was on a downward spiral with my depression. I was overwhelmed with the different aspects of the diagnosis with many appointments that my daughter now had and also trying to make time for my son as well. I got lost in all of it. It was then that I was challenged for the mile a day for 10 days. Running has helped me once again pull out of the depths of depression. I am also so thankful that my parents were able to help me take her to many of those appointments.
I love my daughter so much but after a rough day, I am usually so exhausted. Today was one of those days, actually, it has been a few rough days. Even though I feel like I don’t have the energy to do anything except to just go to bed, I know that my mind needs that run. I think my children know I need it to. As I started my mile tonight my legs were so heavy, they felt like lead. The first quarter of a mile was rough and quite slow but as I finished the first half mile, I knew I was where I needed to be. It is in moments like this that I am no longer thinking about the challenges of having a child with special needs, but taking in other things around me, like the beautiful sunset tonight.
Running refreshes me and gives me energy. I know this about me and there are days that I really struggle to get motivated to get out there. But I know that after I am done it will be worth it.
Running helps me be a better mother to my children.
Running gives me strength to push forward.
Running helps me be a better me.